A different kind of being thankful: thanking yourself
As the commercialism of Thanksgiving fades into the commercialism of Christmas (or whatever one is allowed to call it these days), several thoughts have occurred to me that will impact you as a person, a salesperson and your business.
People try so hard to express good cheer in these holiday seasons that they often miss the mark. “Don’t eat too much turkey!” Or, “Don’t drink too much eggnog!” are their way of saying “I have nothing new to say.”
My bet is your “thank you” is somewhat like your mission statement — it’s there, but relatively meaningless, and no one can recite it. (Most employees, even executives, cannot recite their own mission statement, even under penalty of death.)
- Why is this the only season that we give thanks?
- How sincere is your message, really?
- Why do you find it necessary to thank your customers at the same time everyone else is thanking their customers?
- If you’re thanking people, what are you offering besides words to show them that you value them and you care about them?
- Why do you have a shiny card with a printed message and foil stamped company signature — and nothing personal?
Here’s my idea: Why not start by thanking yourself. Thank yourself for your success, your good fortune, your health, your family, your library, your attitude, your fun times, your friends, and all the cool things you do that make you a happy person.
If you’re having trouble thanking yourself, that’s an indicator things aren’t going very well. And in that situation, any thanks you give to others will be perceived somewhere between “less than whole” and “totally insincere.”
I don’t think you can become sincerely thankful to others until you have become fully thankful to yourself and for yourself. And once you realize who you are, your message of thanks will become much more real and passionate to others.
News reality: The good news is, it’s a holiday. The bad news is, it’s so full of retail shopping incentives, mobs of people and “today only deals” that the festivity of Thanksgiving is somewhat lost in the shuffle.
Black Friday and Cyber Monday, or is it Cyber Tuesday, or is it Small Business Saturday, or is it Throwback Thursday? Whatever it is, it’s a strategy for advertising and promoting. And I’m OK with it, totally OK with the free enterprise system, I just think the hype of it has become more dominant than the giving of thanks.
Call me old-fashioned or call me traditional, but I don’t think you can call me “wrong.” I want our economy to be strong but not at the expense of celebration, family time, and personal time to thank yourself for who you have become and who you are becoming.
Have you ever tried this? Sit around the dinner table and have each person make a statement about what they are grateful for and who they are grateful to. Then have them say one thing about themselves for which they are thankful.
This simple action creates a sense of reality that is both revealing and educational. It also wipes away all the superficiality often associated with family holidays.
Why not ask people to recall their best Thanksgiving ever, or the person they miss the most, or the most important thing they’ve learned as a family member and to be thankful for them or that?
Back to you: Make a list of your best qualities, your personal assets — not your money or your property but those assets you possess that you believe have created the person you are: your humor, your friendliness, your helpfulness, your approachability, your trustworthiness, your honesty, your ethics, and maybe even your morality. (Tough list, eh?)
And as you head deeper into this holiday season, perhaps next year’s intentions and focus (not goals and resolutions) will be more about building assets and building capabilities you can be thankful for and grateful for.
And for those of you wondering, “Where’s the sales tip?” — wake up and smell the leftovers.
I’m trying to help you sell you on yourself. Once you make that sale, once you become the best you can be for yourself, then it is easy to become the best you can be for others and present yourself in a way that others will buy.
It’s the holiday, baby, go out and celebrate yourself.
It’s the holiday, baby, go out and thank yourself.
Jeffrey Gitomer is the author of 12 best-selling books. For public event dates and information about training and seminars, visit www.gitomer.com or email Jeffrey personally at firstname.lastname@example.org.