“Pain is a deconstruction of the unnecessary, a melting of ego and the gateway to the purest you.” — Amy Larson
As we enter the new year, I’m sure you’ve created the obligatory list of resolutions, reflecting on the past 365 days and writing down all the ways you will make this your year. We all do it in one way or another. Goals are essential. Looking ahead is important — to hope and anticipate successes and happiness is great. But if 2014 taught me anything, it’s that the lows are the real agents of change.
Failure, pain, heartache and loss: These are the things that break us and the things that shape us, build our character and remind us of our strength.
“Pain is a deconstruction of the unnecessary, a melting of ego, and the gateway to the purest you.”
This past year, my determination (or my ego) was all but melting, and it got the best of me. I wanted to be and do everything, and the painful life events I experienced throughout the year were not going to stop me — until they did.
Suddenly, I found myself sitting in a meeting with my tribe at the firm, unable to hold back tears, admitting I was weak and hurting and that I couldn’t pretend anymore. It goes without saying it was a new low for the year.
Up to that point, I was ashamed to admit I was human, but acknowledging the pain and embracing where I was because of it did the opposite of what I had expected. It tore down my walls, deconstructed my façade and melted my ego.
I was embraced, supported and reminded of my greatness.
Deconstruction is a beautiful thing — whether it be the deconstruction of walls we build to hide our humanity to rebuild a better version of ourselves, or the deconstruction of physical brick and mortar to rebuild a structure into a healthy, thriving community.
Cheers to a year of the purest you.